Valentine’s Day means so many different things to so many people. Everyone has experienced the good and bad emotions Valentine’s Day brings. It would be silly to believe that every Valentine’s day of our life was or will be filled with overwhelming love and desire. The truth is many of us have spent Valentine’s day or two disappointed. It is the facts of life.
So, what do we do on those Valentine’s days? Well, I’ve personally been thru them all. I’ve been all types of single. I’ve been sad single, mad single, looking for love single and even really happy enjoying life single. The truth is on Valentine’s day we like to get all of our feelings but honestly, there are 365 days of the year and Valentine’s day is just one of them. I’ve dated guys officially and unofficially. I’ve broken up with guys before and I’ve also been the one dumped. I’ve been engaged, married and even talked about divorce this is the cycle of relationships. They are not easy by no means. I’ve experienced all types of love and heartbreak.
I was one of the ones, lucky enough to marry my 9th-grade crush. My 14-year-old self would slap me a high five, but the truth is love is not easy. I spent many years back and forth with my husband before we really developed into anything. Somehow between it all, we became best friends because he was well the worst boyfriend ever. I’d like to say he made a better fiance or husband but he is not always the best at that either. Honestly, most men suck at the things woman want them to be best at. Every day though I wake up next to my imperfect husband and he wakes up next to me who is also imperfect. My husband and I spend much time together but it always seems like we don’t have enough. We argue over stupid little things and sometimes even big. Above all the flaws and bad experiences we go thru and face every day. At the end of the day, when we go to sleep I fall asleep next to a man that I so deeply love and cherish. I share a life with a man that I don’t know if I could live without, together we have survived thru both the good and bad. We may not always like each other or even get along but under all the crazy and moments that built us is a love I don’t think I could ever find again.
What I have found in each of the above is just an experience. Each one builds or breaks your heart but all the above make the person you look at every day in the mirror.
So whether you celebrate Valentine’s day with your soul mate, a friend, family member, a stranger or even by yourself. Just remember every day is what you make of it and Valentine’s day is only 1 day and 1 night once per year. You don’t have to like it or love it. You can choose to celebrate it however you wish. Although this year, for those of you that read this post. I’d like you to consider no matter your circumstance time and life is precious. Every moment you live should be full of possibilities and adventure. Positivity and happiness all start the moment you choose to really live and experience all life has to offer.
Truthfully though instead of looking at our hard Valentine’s days in a negative light, let’s put a positive spin on the whole process. Love is challenging all on its own. Let alone dealing with the regular day to day complications between two individuals, trying to build a life together. It is an emotional battlefield that sometimes can scar us emotionally or physically. We all face our own battles when it comes to dealing with love. No two relationships are exactly alike. We all go thru love and heartbreak. We all express our feelings in our own ways.
The thing is if we never experienced those horrible Valentine’s days that left us speechless, full of tears or completely alone. We may have not truly appreciated the ones that counted the most. I’ve had several Valentine’s thru out my life. Some I’ve shared with boyfriends, some with friends and several with my husband. In some ways now that I’m married Valentine’s day has just become another day. We celebrate and it’s nice but for us everyday is suppose to be special so I don’t focus on it like I did when I was younger. So my husband and I have had my really good years and my ahh okay years. For those of you that don’t have a special someone here’s a fact:
One Valentine’s day quite a while ago. I experienced Valentine’s day I don’t think I’ll ever forget. You would think it was one I shared with a boyfriend or even my husband but in fact, it was one I shared with my best friend. We both had to work and she was not able to see her boyfriend and I at the time was seeing several guys but didn’t want to leave my friend alone. To surprise her I showed up at the store right after closing time while she was finishing up work. I brought her baked ziti and we split a Hershey bar. It’s funny when I look back because we started off complaining about how much our Valentine’s day had totally sucked. Although, before we knew it half way thru our ziti we had been giggling like none of the above mattered at all. By the time we split our Hershey bar, we realized how lucky we were to have each other and how much worse it could have been. I share this story because I really believe life is what you make of it. There are so many ways to enjoy this special day.
So if you are single :
If you are happy in a relationship:
No matter how you spend this day single or not. There is a whole world out there of people that may be facing the same effects from life experiences that either took them to the next level or held them back. Stay focused on your hopes and dreams. Live life for you and when all is as it is suppose to be you never know when it will be your turn to take part in the process of love and happiness. Maybe this is your year or maybe it will be next year. Stay open and live every moment like it’s your last.
This year I’m planning a nice quiet dinner at home just me and my husband.For dessert, chocolate covers strawberries while watching a movie. Sometimes it’s the simple things that count the most. So curl up and have the type of day that brings you joy and happiness. If your single hang out with friends if you are alone do something you love. For those that have lost their husband or wife to divorce or death take the day to remember all those special occasions that brought you joy and maybe just enjoy a grand dinner or a nice dessert. Whatever it is you do enjoy.
Thanks for reading my crazy beautiful blog. Happy Valentine’s Day to all !!! Xoxo