The Secret Life Of Domestic Abuse…

Being a victim of mental and physical abuse can cause serious effects on you personally, emotionally and physically. I have put this post together because I do not believe there is enough information out regarding this subject. Nor do I feel the support provided is at the standard it should be.

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There is a large platform of sources and information out there but from experience, I specifically understand that most men and women that are victims suffer in silence.

For what ever reason it maybe that holds you back in these situations, sometimes you may feel you have no way out or enough support to make that jump. Maybe you do not want to burden anyone with your problems.

Many pages and sources do their best to give the victim ways to run and flee their situation. Others may rally with support to assist you in letting your emotional side out while you survive or put together a plan of action towards peace and happiness. While some may help out by allowing you to share your stories and rants while providing information on how to achieve a successful extraction from such hardships.

The thing I find sad about Domestic abuse, is even though it is a reality in life. Many people do not understand it. They may not understand why the victim stays around or continues to accept their situation. The truth is many people find it easy to judge the victim of Domestic Violence before judging the actual abuser!



You maybe asked these questions or have remarks made to you such as:

Why would you take that abuse and still stay?

What is it that is holding you back?

Why do you remain loyal?

I would never take that type of abuse!

You must like it, if you stick around!

Maybe He / She Deserves it?

Well, what did you do to cause your partner to act like that or treat you that way?

This Is My Favorite One ( WHY DON’T YOU JUST LEAVE?)

This is a small list of questions and remarks you maybe facing if you are a victim. The simple answer to all of the above questions and the response to all of the remarks is this…

YOU HAVE NO CLUE, HOW HARD IT IS TO THROUGH AWAY A LIFE YOU WORKED, SO HARD TO ACHIEVE. NO ONE WANTS TO BE ABUSED, LEAST OF ALL ME! NO, I DO NOT LIKE IT, I DO NOT DESERVE IT AND IT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!

But instead of letting your frustration get the best of you.

Just say if you care about me, instead of adding on pressure and making me feel more embarrassed maybe help me find other options. I am in a hard situation but I am unsure of the best way to get out of it with the least amount of damage to my life..





The truth about being a victim of abuse is there is such a larger picture to the situation, then what really meets the eye. Maybe you are terrified of the unknown? Maybe, there is an issue that led to you being in this situation, in the first place? You see, not all abusers start off being terrible people. The majority of them are every day men and women, just like you and me. Maybe, you were in this relationship for x amount of time and one day out of the blue they hit you for no reason, with no explanation. Then in disbelief you accidentally overlooked a huge sign of complication and then found yourself stuck.

After a life time of good times or beautiful memories shared it is hard to believe that someone you loved and that loved you so dearly, could turn on you like a wild dog! Perhaps, they have an addiction, that sends them into spirts of abuse. Maybe, they were abused themselves and need help also? The things to consider in these situations, vary on so many levels. It is not always as simple as packing your bags and relocating. The thing is most people stay, due to fear of the unknown, lack of finances, lack of support, lack of confidence, loyalty to their partner, faith that their god will get them through it some how, a sense of pride, the list goes on and on!


Dear Friends And Family Of Domestic Abuse or Any Type Of Abuse Victims


I ask you, if you are friends with or the family member of a person in a Domestic Violence or some one in an Abusive Situation, that you be gentle with your words. Judgment is not the answer ! These men and women of domestic, emotional or just general violence get judged and ridiculed everyday.

Many Victims of abuse live there life in silent pain, suffering in fear and agony. These sorrows and experiences can never be described or explained, well enough to give you even a quarter of the experience, they have been through. The gut wrenching sorrows from such acts, can break a person in so many ways, that most people can never understand.

Show support to your loved one by being there to listen. Help them to seek assistance by helping them to find a sense of peace or laughter regardless, of their current state. Assist them in rebuilding their confidence and helping them to put together an exit strategy that works in their best interest and safety. Be an outside source, that can provide a safe couch or listening ear! If you see something, say something to them in a non-judgmental way. Sometimes it’s the simple acts of kindness and support that can make all the difference in the pain, your loved one maybe experiencing.


Now Dear Victim Of Abuse Any Type Of Abuse 


 I plead with you to take a full account of your situation. Keep a log of the actions, taken on you, take pictures, and if you do this be safe with the information you keep. Make sure to tell a secure and reliable friend that is capable of keeping a secret. Just incase at some point you need someone to verify and back you up. So many times these abusers get off because of our silence.

YOU DO NOT WANT THIS FALLING IN THE WRONG HANDS!!!! Do not let your abuser know, you are seeking assistance or building an exit strategy.

Save money, where you can and be aware of all of your surroundings, at all times! Learn your partners patterns and cycles so you are aware of when you should and should not say and do certain things. SEEK HELP, as soon as you are able to! Remember, NO ONE deserves being abused mentally or physically. You may have your reasons to stay but there is a better life out there, for you. With a structured plan of action, you can free yourself of this harm and all of the pain and suffering that comes along with it.

You may feel weak and like less of a person but the truth is YOU ARE STRONG! You may be scared of the unknown but maybe the unknown could be LESS SCARY then your actual situation. You maybe waiting, for a white knight to save you but the truth is, all the support in the world will not make you change your mind to leave, if you do not want to seek change. Especially, if you do not want to make the first step, to MAKE A CHANGE!

The first step, of taking your life back is to access your situation. Second step, is making people you trust aware of your situation. Third step, is making a plan of action.. Fourth step is, Taking One Step At A Time To Find Safety And Build Your Way Towards A Better Way Of Life.





Always Remember The Below Words Through Your Journey, Towards A Better Life



MIND OVER MATTER



YOU ARE WORTH SAVING ~ FEEL NO SHAME ~ BE SMART~ FIND STRUCTURE~ BE SAFE
MOST OF ALL FIND THE LIFE YOU NOT JUST DESIRE BUT DESERVE!!!!



After You Finish Reading This Page Feel Free To Share Your Comments Here . But For Anyone That Would Like To Share A Story Of Perseverance From This Type Of Scenario Or That Would Like To Just Share Their Story Please Also Do So On My Domestic Violence Page… Also That Page Also Has More Domestic Violence Information This Is A Preview To That Page..

Click Here For More And To Share Your Story


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