Building A Healthy Safe Home For Your Family:
The Roles Of Parents Build The Structure, That Sets the Baseline For Every Child Future: Here Are Some Ways & Resources To Help You Decide The Role To Play As A Parent In Your Childs Life, That Will Help Them To Have A Healthy & Positive Upbringing. In Which, Will Lead To Them Growing Into Healthy, Well Maintained & Structured.
The Reality Of Parenting
In reality everyone sets out wanting to be a good parent. The first thing we usually consider when contemplating what type of parent we want to be is do we want to follow the example our parents set for us? Or perhaps do we want to do the complete opposite?
Everyone grows up with a different childhood and our upbringing is what sets the base for our future. As well, as the future we want to give our children. The natural order of things is to try to do better than our parents, who hopefully tried to do better then their parents, and so on and on thru your past family tree.
After all who does not want to give their children the very best of the best life?
This Is A Short List Of Valuable Things To Consider Before Becoming A Parent!
Sadly, we also can only do our best. With that being said we need to build realistic plans of action. Here is a list of things to consider when contemplating being a parent…
- Are you ready to be a parent?
- When is a good time to start trying?
- If you have a child if something happened to you, where would your child go?
- Are you in a stable place in your life?
- Are you capable of providing your child with the very best of care, time, love, affection, stability support, and etc;?
- What type of parent do you want to be? (For a great article on deciding what type of parent you want to be click here)
- Now, would be a great time to do all your research. (Buy, rent, borrow pregnancy books. Ask lots of questions.)
- Create A 5 year plan.
Okay, You’re Pregnant… Now What?
Congratulations, To All Of You Parents Who Are Currently Excited …😂💕 Now For Those Of You That Are Feeling Overwhelmed Or Surprised…😱😕🤔
Here Are Some Great Things To Consider …
No Matter Your Timing Now. If This Pregnancy Was Planned, You Should Have Already Contemplated All Of The Above!
If Not Do Not Panic 😨
Just Because It’s The Wrong time, The Big Oops, A Shear Miracle, Or Just A General Surprise Does Not Mean You Are Screwed ! It Just Means You Have A Lot To Consider.
So Here’s, A Great Place To Start…
Your pregnant — now what?
Is this a situation that you can handle right now? (The plan fact is parenting is not for everyone! But there are several options for you especially in the earlier part of your pregnancy. We may not all agree but every one deserves the right for options.. Do Not Be Ashamed, We All Must Do What Is Best At The Time.)
- Finding out you’re pregnant when you don’t expect it can be stressful, but it’s a pretty common experience — about half of all women in the U.S. have an unplanned pregnancy at some point in their lives.
People who are pregnant have 3 options:
— giving birth and raising the child.
Abortion — taking medication or having a medical procedure that ends the pregnancy.
Adoption — giving birth and placing your child with another person or family permanently.
Sometimes deciding what to do about an unplanned pregnancy is easy. Other times, it’s difficult or complicated. Your decision is very personal, and everyone’s situation is different. You’re the only person walking in your shoes, so the decision is 100% yours.
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2. It’s time to catch up on your research!!! (See The List Above This For Things To Consider Before Becoming A Parent!)
Your 1st Trimester Survival Guide
For some, the 1st trimester can feel like a drop off a cliff. One minute you’re on stable ground and the next, BOOM! You’re pregnant! Suddenly your mind is dominated by thoughts, questions, and worries. “Am I having a boy or girl?” “What color should I paint the nursery?” “Is this real life?”
Never fear, new mom! We have just the thing you need to get organized and into the swing of pregnancy. Our 1st trimester guide will keep you on track for the next 12 weeks!
Step 1: Make sure that you’re really pregnant
Home pregnancy tests are very unlikely to deliver accurate results until about 1 week after you miss your period. You may want to try again in a few days, just to be sure!
Step 2: Tell your partner!
This is a fun one! Delivering the big news is an amazing experience. You don’t have to make it a big production, because it will be special and memorable no matter what. Especially to your partner! Some mommies like to make cards or give their partner some baby clothes as a fun surprise; some are so overwhelmed by the surprise of a positive test that their partners hear them from across the house!
Step 3: Completely stop smoking and drinking!
It may be tough to do, but there is countless research about the negative effects of smoking and drinking on newborns. It can be very hard to quit cold turkey, but every cigarette and drink puts your baby at risk. Ditching the butts and the booze is an absolute must!
Step 4: Cut back on the Caffeine
You can still have that cup of coffee in the morning, but it is recommended that expecting mommies keep their caffeine at around 200mg per day (that’s 2 cups of instant coffee or 1 cup of brewed). If you can, cut it out completely to be on the safe side. Be sure to keep an eye out for other sources of caffeine in your diet, like teas, soft drinks, and even chocolate!
Step 5: Take a prenatal vitamin ASAP
The folic acid, aka vitamin B9, in prenatal vitamins is absolutely ESSENTIAL for development during the embryonic period (That’s right now). Also remember that a prenatal vitamin is not a substitute for a balanced diet, just a supplement for one.
Step 6: Eat well!
Your growing bump needs nutrition! Your provider will go over this with you, but most pregnant women need more protein, folic acid, calories (don’t go overboard!), and iron. You’re going to want to skip the sushi and soft cheeses, and work wholesome choices into your everyday diet. That way it’s not so bad when you give into the occasional craving for a burger or slice of cake!
Step 7: Find a care provider and schedule a prenatal appointment
Even though you may know you’re pregnant by 4 or 5 weeks, care providers won’t see you until you hit 8 weeks. Make that call as early as you can! If you don’t have a prenatal care provider, generally your options are between an obstetrician-gynecologist (ob-gyn), a physician, or a midwife. Talk to your friends and family members for their opinions and experience.
Step 8: Start thinking about finances
You’ve got your mind on your bump and your money on your mind! It’s important that you consider budgeting for saving, especially during the 1st trimester. You’re going to need to think about health insurance as well, to figure out what prenatal care your plan covers. Don’t forget to consider how maternity leave will affect your finances. Babies are expensive to have and even more so to raise, so start saving as soon as possible!
Step 9: Go to your 8-week prenatal appointment
Your 1st prenatal checkup! Exciting isn’t it? By now you have selected a prenatal care provider, doctor or midwife, and it’s time for your two to get acquainted. We recommend keeping a list of questions to ask so you can get some peace of mind. Today you’ll get your due date, run through your medical history, work out your options for genetic testing, get a physical, have a variety of tests run, and schedule your next appointment. Wow, that’s a lot! But here’s the best part: at this appointment you might be able to use a special device to hear your baby’s heartbeat. Now that’s incredible!
Step 10: Consider some maternity clothes
Depending on what week you’re at when you read this, maternity clothes may seem a long way off. No, your belly won’t look like a watermelon so early in the process, but you may notice your pants and bras are getting a lot tighter! Whenever you’re sick of wearing unbuttoned pants, go for an extender or maternity wear!
Step 11: The big announcement!
You don’t have to tell anyone during your 1st trimester, but soon enough it’s going to be time to spread the news. Many women choose to wait until after the 1st trimester, when miscarriage risk decreases by a ton. It may simply be more important to tell your boss sooner rather than later as well. Sometimes, though, it’s just too tough to hold in the big news! Whenever you’re ready, be sure to have some fun announcing to your friends and family. It’s a surprise like no other!
Step 12: Take some belly pics!
You may just be growing a little at a time in your 1st trimester, but your bump is going to be pretty sizeable before you know it! Make a fun album of weekly or biweekly photos with the help of some fun belly stickers for an awesome keep sake.
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3. Do I have enough space, where I currently live?
4. Build a realistic & affordable plan of action, for the next Year or Two! (Also, To Help You Create A 5 year Goal List To Use As a Guideline. This Will Assist You With Building A Stable And Structured Life For Your Little One.)
5. Make lots of lists to help you keep track of your health, needs, wants, and etc.
Most Important Thing To Remember …
Shit Happens, Every One Makes Mistakes!!! No One Is Perfect, So Do Not Be Hard On Yourself…
Do the best you can, even if you have to swallow your pride and reach out for a helping hand.
Assistance & Resources
ACT Raising Safe Kids Program
Everyday Parenting: The ABCs of Child Rearing
Resilience Booster: Parent Tip Tool
* I Hope All The Above Is Helpful
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Here Is Some Information I Picked Up From Various Websites That I Thought Really Defined The Type Of Positive Parenting, That Can Greatly Assist You In Building Your Parental Goals:
What Makes A Great Parent & Well Rounded Child
What makes a good parent? There are 10 competencies that predict good parenting outcomes, parent-child bonds and children’s happiness, health and success.
Decades of research reveal 10 essential parenting skill sets. A new study of 2,000 parents determined which skills are most important to bringing up healthy, happy and successful kids. Giving love and affection tops the list. Then comes a surprise: managing stress and having a good relationship with the other parent are more helpful than some child-focused behaviors.
Giving love and affection tops the list. Then comes a surprise: managing stress and having a good relationship with the other parent are more helpful than some child-focused behaviors.
All types of people are equally competent at child-rearing—and anyone can learn how to be a better parent with a little effort. These 10, listed in order from most to least important, predict a strong parent-child bond and children’s happiness, health, and success:
Love and affection. “You support and accept the child, are physically affectionate, and spend quality one-on-one time together.”
Stress Management. “You take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child, practice relaxation techniques, and promote positive interpretations of events.
“Relationship skills. “You maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse, significant other, or co-parent and model effective relationship skills with others.”
Autonomy and Independence. “You treat your child with respect and encourage him or her to become self-sufficient and self-reliant.”
Education and learning. “You promote and model learning and provide educational opportunities for your child.”
Life skills. “You provide for your child, have a steady income, and plan for the future.”
Behavior management. “You make extensive use of positive reinforcement and punish only when other methods of managing behavior have failed.”
Health. “You model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and proper nutrition.”
Religion. “You support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or religious activities.”
Safety. “You take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child’s activities and friends.”
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Positive Discipline Options That Will Not Leave Your Child With Life Long Wounds But Actually Promote Them To Make Positive Decisions And Help Them Gain Management Skills For Their Future:
“Attachment Parenting incorporates the “golden rule” of parenting; parents should treat their children the way they would want to be treated. Positive discipline is an overarching philosophy that helps a child develop a conscience guided by his own internal discipline and compassion for others. Positive discipline is rooted in a secure, trusting, connected relationship between parent and child. Discipline that is empathetic, loving and respectful strengthens that the connection between parent and child, while harsh or overly punitive discipline weakens the connection. Remember that the ultimate goal of discipline is to help children develop self-control and self-discipline.“
A Gentler Approach to Discipline
Positive discipline begins at birth. The bonds of attachment and trust that are formed when parents consistently and compassionately respond to an infant’s needs become the foundation of discipline
Positive Discipline involves using such techniques as prevention, distraction, and substitution to gently guide children away from harm
Help your child explore safely, seeing the world through his eyes and empathizing as he experiences the natural consequences of his actions
Try to understand what need a child’s behavior is communicating. Children often communicate their feelings through their behavior
Resolve problems together in a way that leaves everyone’s dignity intact
Understand developmentally appropriate behavior, and tailor loving guidance to the needs and temperaments of your child
Children learn by example so it’s important to strive to model positive actions and relationships within a family and in interactions with others
When parents react in a way that creates tension, anger or hurt feelings, they can repair any damage to the parent-child relationship by taking time to reconnect and apologize later.
The Dangers of Traditional Discipline
Instilling fear in children serves no purpose and creates feelings of shame and humiliation. Fear has been shown to lead to an increased risk of future antisocial behavior including crime and substance abuse
Studies show that spanking and other physical discipline techniques can create ongoing behavioral and emotional problems
Harsh, physical discipline teaches children that violence is the only way to solve problems
Controlling or manipulative discipline compromises the trust between parent and child, and harms the attachment bond
It is a sign of strength and personal growth for a parent to examine his or her own childhood experiences and how they may negatively impact their parenting, and to seek help if they are unable to practice positive discipline
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